Hello, beautiful being.
How do we let go?
How do we just let go?
We hear this a lot—”You just need to let go.” But how do we let go and know that everything’s going to be okay? Today, I’m going to talk a little bit about this process, how we create a lot of resistance when we hold on to things, and why that’s not good when we’re learning to become heart-aligned and to walk this life in flow.
Self-Reflection: The Mirror Inside
The first thing I’d like to share is self-reflection. It’s very easy for us to get caught up in looking outside of ourselves at the things that are in our way, our preferences, and our unhappiness with the status quo. It’s easy to get caught up in that fight, in pushing away, and making a path that feels right amongst all the interferences that we deem troublesome for us.
So, I want to encourage you to reflect. It’s a good idea to stop and turn around and look at yourself, to pause and realize that you can’t really make much change in your outside world if you don’t change the thing that’s creating the reflection—and that’s you.
“Our external world is a direct reflection of our internal world.”
We first need to recognize our emotional state. Remember, our entire reality is formed out of vibration. Our direct personal experience of life is a form of vibration that reflects how we are thinking—the thoughts running around in our mind all day.
Raising Your Vibration: The Key to Change
What are the thoughts in your programming? Can you recognize the vibrational frequency of these thoughts? 100% of the time, your thoughts’ vibrational frequency affects your external reality and brings things into your experience that you do not like, creating resistance. So, it becomes harder to let go.
We need to understand this concept of raising our vibration. Yes, it sounds cliche, but we don’t get what we want—we get what we are, what we are vibrating. It’s crucial to look at our base programming. The National Science Foundation found that 80% of our thoughts are negative in nature.
Recognizing Negative Thoughts
Therefore, most people walk around expressing negative thoughts, which have an associated vibration and attract a certain frequency into their experience—and like attracts like. When moving into the understanding of letting go, we must reflect on the experience we’re creating with our thoughts.
Identifying Lower Vibrations: Shadow Work Essentials
The second step of letting go is identifying lower vibrations. Recognize states such as anger, sadness, fear, or anxiety. These states often stem from covert programs, meaning we don’t actually see them or are not aware of them. They operate in the shadows.
When we have these programs creating thoughts that lead to feelings of anger, sadness, guilt, frustration, shame, or fear, they create cycles or self-fulfilling prophecies. Like will continue to attract like into our lives and experiences. Thus, we need to emphasize that our state results from unconscious actions.
“This is where shadow work becomes vital. We have to do the work.”
Embracing and Releasing with Love
We have to sit with ourselves and allow everything we’ve been repressing—traumas and wounds—to surface as energy to be expressed and released. Do this with loving consciousness. There are two ways to express these states:
- Unconsciously: Exploding at inappropriate moments, causing harm.
- Consciously: In a process of loving awareness, non-judgmental validation, acknowledging that these are just uncomfortable feelings that need to be felt and seen to be released.
Awareness to Resistance and Desire
The third step in learning to let go is awareness of the resistance and desire within ourselves. Both cause imbalanced amounts of importance or energy that we place on things, leading to imbalance in other areas of our lives. This imbalance creates ripples or waves in our life, making us feel that the space is not calm enough to let go.
What Are You Resisting?
We need to look at the things in our life causing resistance. Ask yourself, what are some of the things in your present moment that you’re resisting? For example, I resisted loud noises for a long time. Every time I heard them, I got angry, pulling me into a negative state of mind.
Unresolved external experiences often reflect something unhealed within us. By being aware of these resistances, we can learn to accept and heal them. Acceptance allows us to experience external factors without fighting them, leading to self-love and harmony.
The Pitfall of Desires
We must also be aware of our desires. Are we placing too much importance on things like a new job, a new home, or conventional measures of success? When we focus on what we don’t have, we generally focus on the gap, creating more resistance and separation.
“We need to recognize that our most important communication is with our heart.”
Practicing Letting Go
The fourth step is practice. It takes 21 days to build a new neural pathway or habit. Practicing letting go should become second nature and mindless. For instance, recognize when you’re triggered by a loud noise or an annoying habit from a friend. These are moments to catch yourself and see what you’re in resistance to.
Present Moment Awareness
The fifth step is present moment awareness. The past and future are illusions; only the present moment is real. We can choose to spend time in the illusion of the past or future, or we can choose to be right here, right now.
Being present allows us to hear our heart’s message the loudest, providing us clear guidance. The more time we spend in the present, the higher our vibration can rise.
Shifting from Desire to Appreciation
The next step is shifting from desire to appreciation. Gratitude and appreciation for what we have open our hearts and increase our vibrational frequency. Focusing on what we already have can help bring more of what we want into our experience naturally.
“Appreciation is about finding fulfillment in the present moment.”
Surrender and Co-Creation
The eighth step is surrender and co-creation with the universe. Let go of the mind’s control and allow your heart to guide you. This leads to deeper intelligence and synchronicity in life, allowing us to dance with the flow of life in harmony.
Connecting to Universal Consciousness
Step nine is connecting to universal consciousness. This happens through the heart in surrender. Over time, as we let go of the mind’s need to control, we attune to our inner guidance system—our heart, leading to a more fulfilling life.
Enlightenment and Freedom from Suffering
Enlightenment, for me, is allowing our heart to lead. True enlightenment removes fear and suffering, replacing them with a harmonious flow of life.
Continuous practice and self-reflection are vital. This journey takes courage, heart, and support. It’s the hero’s journey, a multi-dimensional experience moving toward a unified consciousness.
Thank you for joining me on this journey today. May you find your heart opening wider every day.
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